Welcome to another edition of Myth Busters. This time, we are looking at common myths associated with self-harm, also known as self-injury, which is often misunderstood. 

People who self-harm are only seeking attention and use it as a tool to be manipulative.

Studies show that the most common reason people self-harm is to deal with stressors and overwhelming emotional pain. It is a way for the person to release the tension and stress they feel. It can also be a way to cope with emotions such as self-loathing, guilt, and helplessness. Self-harm can cause temporary relief from pain due to the release of endorphins.

Self-harm is most often done in private, and the behaviour is not shared with others. Many people hide their injuries and the resulting scars because they do not want anyone to know what they have done. They might feel shame. It is important to reassure a loved one who self-harms that you don’t think less of them.

People who self-harm are suicidal.

Although there is a significant correlation between self-harm and suicidal thoughts, self-harm is not the same as a suicide attempt. Some people who self-harm are also suicidal, but many are not. People who self-harm often use it as a coping tool; even a way to avoid suicide.

People who self-harm are addicted to or enjoy pain.

While some people might become dependent on self-harm to help manage their emotions, it doesn’t mean that they are addicted to pain. Additionally, studies show that those who self-harm might have a higher tolerance threshold for pain. The physical pain caused by self-harm is not enjoyable.

Self-harm only comes in the form of cutting.

Injury to the self can come in many forms and varies from person to person. Some examples include biting, burning, banging, or scratching. Some people also prevent their wounds from healing, thus causing more harm to their body. The individual who self-harms does not hurt themselves with the goal of killing themselves; the intention is to cause harm to themselves to relieve negative emotions they are experiencing.

Only teenage girls self-harm.

Many people believe that those who self-injure are teenage girls. This might be because of certain media portrayals and stigma. Self-harm often starts in adolescence, but studies have uncovered that the second most common age range for someone to start self-harm is in their 20s. Teenagers, young adults, and adults of all genders have been known to harm themselves to cope. Many people might not discuss self-harm because of societal scrutiny and stigma.

There is no cure for self-harm.

There are different therapies that have been shown to help people who self-harm. Therapies such as dialectical behavioural therapy (DBT) and cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) have proven to be effective. Some people might be prescribed medications to help with an underlying condition like anxiety or depression.

For help coping with self-harm in yourself or someone you care about, visit amiquebec.org/self-harm.

–Gabrielle Lesage
From Share&Care Fall 2026
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